Our world is in great need of one thing. This “one-thing”, promises to be the remedy for our more painful wounds, and our deepest desires. We all know that this “one-thing” will give us purpose, and fill us in such a way that we are going to be “Happy”, or better said joyful. Our world is wounded and broken… and we are looking for precious remedy, this “one-thing” all in the wrong places. I think that as human beings we have written in our heart the longing for L O V E.
Love is, nowadays, a term that is confusing. We know that it is the solution to our problems, but we do not know exactly what it is or where can we find it. Is it pleasure? Is it possession? Is it about my well-being? Does it imply freedom? What kind of freedom? Does it come with money or fame? Does it contain praise from others? Is it a place (the Caribbean maybe)? Is it a feeling? Is it as ephemeral and fickle? Can I buy it? Can I earn it? Does it look like a laugh or a smile? Is it fun? Does it feel like excitement? …..I will say, No, no, no, no and No.
I am not suggesting that I know exactly what LOVE is, but I believe I have seen a glance of His Face. LOVE is a person, NOT your boyfriend or even husband. LOVE is too big to be contained in ourselves; it looks for ways to be given. It involves compassion. Let’s start with the word compassion, considering its origins from Latin com– together + pati that is passion. Passion, it comes from the Latin root word, patior, which means to suffer. Unexpected? It could seem counterintuitive but thinking more about it, it is so simple and it makes sense….
Our world, with time, has forgotten that to suffer for and with the person next to us, is what fills our life with purpose and joy. Have you ever done a selfless act that just fills you with a joy that you cannot explain? That is very close to LOVE.
LOVE is work, hard work. We are meant to LOVE in so many ways, but today I will focus on marriage and not the practical side (that is another post in itself), but I would like to start with Sex.
Sex is definitely an act of giving ourselves, it is part of LOVE. Why would I keep from my loved person a part of me, if the purpose is giving? Why would I keep my fertility outside of this LOVE gesture? LOVE is giving ourselves without measure. LOVE waits for the right context, LOVE waits to have a solid base where it can be given in an intimate act that could results in one of the greatest blessings –LIFE. Sex is meant to be always safe, because it is based on trust, loyalty, exclusivity and openess to Life. Sex should be an act of communion (a strong union) that fills you with peace, certainty and joy. An act that lets you know that you are so close to the loved person that almost you are becoming one.
LOVE looks for the benefit of others, not my own pleasure. If that is the case, I would not put my loved person in a situation where they do not what to be, for example an unexpected pregnancy outside marriage, just for the sake of my own pleasure. Sex outside of marriage fills you with uncertainty (Am I the only one?, Does he/she loves me or he/she only wants to have sex with me?, Is he/she going to stay tonight?). Sex using contraception creates separation not union (Did you take your pills?, Do you have on hand you condoms? Is it my responsibility, is it yours?) That is so far away from LOVE.
Our world thinks so little about itself that is able to conform itself with crumbs, just not to feel lonely. If you are reading this message, I want to tell you that you are so sacred that you are meant to wait for the person that will stand by your side, even after tribulation. Wait for the person that is willing to commit to you for life, to then give yourself without reserves in marriage. LOVE is taking your fears away, knowing that the other person will stand by your side no matter what. LOVE is knowing that the way is going to be difficult, but you have someone to suffer-with, someone to relay on, some one that is willing to give their life for you.
LOVE makes the marriage last forever, because nothing is impossible for LOVE=GOD.
Your body is so sacred to be given one, two, three or more times to the wrong person. Your value is so high that Someone was willing to give HIS life even before you were born.
Thank you to my husband for his inconditial love. Thank you for your compassion and LOVE!